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Brenda Kay Gray

May 5, 1961 — May 2, 2024


Brenda Kay Gray, a dedicated homemaker and loving mother, passed away on May 2, 2024 at the age of 62. She was born on May 5, 1961, in Tulsa, Ok to her parents Vernal Carlton Webb and Dana Mae Webb

Brenda was a compassionate individual known for her kindness and attentive nature. Her innate ability to listen and her willingness to help others endeared her to many throughout years. Brenda's impact reached far and wide as she touched numerous lives with her caring spirit.

She graduated from Will Rogers High School in 1978 and went on to prioritize her roles as a devoted mother and grandmother above all else. Brenda found immense joy in spending time with her grandchildren, nurturing those relationships with love and care. She also had a variety of hobbies and interests including going on cruises, visiting the beach, being outdoors, doing laundry (a task she surprisingly enjoyed), gardening, going two-stepping with her husband Aaron, teaching Sunday School, and volunteering at church camp.

Among Brenda's proudest accomplishments were her roles as a mother to Heather Compton, Amber Pennington, Hannah Bit-Shawish, Eric Gray, Trent Gray, Mitchell Gray; sister to Richard Webb and Carlene; grandmother to thirteen beloved grandchildren.

She is preceded in death by her parents Vernal Carlton Webb and Dana Mae Webb; First Husband Cary Jones; Brother Richard Webb and granddaughter Ezri Grace Pennington.  

Brenda is survived by her loving husband Aaron Gray; daughters Heather Compton (spouse Brandon) daughter Amber Pennington (spouse Ray); daughter Hannah Bit-Shawish (spouse Abdul); Step-sons Eric Gray (spouse Sabrina), Trent Gray, and Mitchell Gray; sister Carlene (spouse Donnie); niece Laura (spouse Brandon); as well as a 13 grandchildren and a  host of other family members and friends who will cherish her memory. 

In honoring Brenda Kay Gray's life, let us remember her for the love she shared with those around her and the impactful legacy she leaves behind. She will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing her. 

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Service Schedule

Past Services


Thursday, May 9, 2024

2:00 - 7:00 pm (Central time)

Family will greet friends from 5:00pm-7:00pm

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Celebration of Life

Friday, May 10, 2024

Starts at 2:00 pm (Central time)

Friendly Foyil Baptist Church

U.S. Rt. 66, Claremore, OK 74017

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